One of the best habits that we can develop is the habit of positive thinking. This habit can be our best life companion because even if things do not go the way we would like to, we can still choose to see the positive aspects of our experiences.
The challenge is that we were conditioned from early childhood to create habits of fear, doubt, criticism, guilt and insecurity. We now have to reprogram our subconscious mind to turn all negative habits into positive ones. This must be done daily by the power of our own will and the determination to not allow our minds to continue the negative conditioning.
We must examine our thoughts and be willing to create the habit of positive thinking. As we continue to do this consistently, we will be transmitting new energy outwardly and the law of cause and effect will respond in ways that will be very pleasing.
Many times we ask ourselves why is it that I am not able to succeed in life. I must not have what it takes to succeed. I am a failure, or I am not good enough. We allow our ego mind to take us into believing false ideas about ourselves and this is how the negative conditioning continues. We must have the courage to stop all of that chattering in our minds and convince ourselves that it is our birthright to succeed. If this were not true, we would not have any of the countless demonstrations of success in our own lives and of people who have succeeded even in the most improbable circumstances.
Here are some ideas on how to develop habits of success:
- Change the trend of your thoughts: Cast out all negative mental habits.
- Spread kindness everywhere you go.
- Associate with positive people.
- Develop a deeper inner connection with your Higher Power, including the power of prayer.
- Keep a grateful heart.
Affirm: I consistently develop habits of success
- Let go of all false and limiting beliefs about yourself
- Let go of all negative stories
- Have the courage and determination to accept your divine right to be successful
- Be willing to identify only with the truth. You are a child of God made in His image and likeness
- Affirm success, health and happiness
As I look back at my life’s journey, I realize that for me the definition of success has changed over the years. For a while it was more about external accomplishments and material possessions. Then I started to feel the urge of going inward and looking for the treasures that I had heard lay inside of me. Because this idea was so intangible for me, I had a difficult time understanding it and trusting the process of finding out if it was true. I kept wanting to look for happiness outside of myself or to expect people around me to make me happy. Many times I felt disappointed, betrayed, rejected and unloved. It was not a successful and happy life.
Years later, I have come to the understanding and to believe that true success is the inner realization of my being. It is in believing that my essence is love, joy and peace, and the more I am willing to live and accept this truth, the more I am able to experience inner joy and external success. I now understand the message from Jesus “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
This quote from Swami Kriyananda brings the same message: “For material success to be more assured and lasting, it must be paired with high principles.” This means to live our lives from our center, from knowing that we are the children of the most High and that we are already loved and accepted unconditionally and we do not have to go through life seeking approval and to be loved. The love that we are seeking is seeking us because is already within each of us. We just have to realize this truth.
We do not have to burden people with demands and expectations. On the opposite we can be accept everyone the way they are. The more we do this, everything we need will be provided because we are allowing our good instead of resisting it. The more we live our lives from our center, the more we will experience true success and happiness.
Affirm: Living from my center brings me success and happiness!
Written by Gloria Ramirez
Going inward to embrace what life brings us, either victories or disappointments, is a wonderful way to liberate ourselves from the ups and downs of life.
Going inward means that instead of taking things personally, blaming others, or playing victim, we go within and think about the ways in which we can see the situation differently.
Even in the midst of chaos, disappointment, and stress, we can go inward and choose to align with the peace that already resides inside. The answers are going to be there and they will come from a space of harmony and love. Our soul is always going to give us solutions that unites and harmonizes us instead of creating separation and disharmony. This is what staying centered in our soul’s essence is all about.
The holIday season can bring us great joy and at the same time a lot of stress. It is up to us to choose to remain calm, no matter what is happening around us. All we have to do is go inward and connect to the peace and joy that await our awareness of their presence. Let’s do our best to keep the spirit of joy and celebration by reminding ourselves that it is up to us how we want to experience this holiday season.
Here are some ideas you can use to go inward:
- Be solution oriented. Do your best to focus on the solution instead of the problem. This will shift your energy instantly and with a calm mind you will be able to receive ideas.
- Use affirmations. Mentally repeat a sentence of the desired outcome. For example: I choose peace. I am peace. I feel peaceful. I choose joy. I am calm.
- Seek inspiration: Read or listen to inspirational messages
- Attune with your soul. Through your positive thoughts, language and actions, align with the qualities of your soul: love, joy, peace, compassion, generosity, kindness, patience and trust.
- Pray and take time to be in silence. Attune yourself with divine love and open yourself to the possibilities that come by the power of faith. Ask for guidance.
As I go inward in every situation in my life, I find peace!
- Go inward. Instead of taking things personally, blaming others, or playing victim, ask yourself, what is one aspect of me that I can change?
- Awaken the happiness that resides in you. Empower yourself by realizing that within yourself you have the power to bring joy and peace into your life.
- Share with others the true nature of your soul: Love. Demonstrate it through joy, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, generosity, support and gratitude.
- Accept others as they are. Be willing to let go of the temptation to judge and instead look for the good in others.
- Live in the moment. Enjoy each moment as if it was the last moment of your life. Smile often!
Written by Gloria Ramirez
I recently lived an experience that impacted my life deeply and gave me a profound understanding of the miracle of life. Seven members of my family came from Colombia to visit me here in California. I was so happy to see them. On Monday, October 19th, they visited Ananda Village, the spiritual community where I live. They were very pleased to connect with the beautiful, kind people who live here and with the peacefulness of this place. On Tuesday, October 20th I planned a trip for my family to the Yuba river, about 40 minutes from Ananda. When we arrived at the river, everyone was admiring the beauty of the mountains surrounded by pine trees.
Even though the water was cold, some of us decided to get into the water. I swam to the other side of the river, a short distance but deep in the middle. When I got to the other side I sat on a rock to admire nature. From there I noticed that one of my brothers got into the water and he started to make funny faces, but because he tends to joke a lot, I thought he was joking. However I shouted and asked his girlfriend if he knew how to swim and she replied yes. I kept watching him until I did not see him any more. Suddenly I saw him floating under the water. He had drowned. I immediate jumped into the water and I do not know how, I placed his head on a rock. In my eyes he was dead; he looked blue and he was not breathing. I was in total panic and called for help. My other bother, sister in-law and brother in-law came and were terrified by what they saw.
My bother started to do CPR on him and my sister in-law mouth resuscitation, but we were so scared because for at least 10 to 15 minutes he was not responding. We were looking at him with such desperation and then I started to pray. He finally moved a little bit and I though this is a real miracle if he survives. At the other side of the river my sisters and sister in-law were screaming and praying for a miracle. They went out to the road to seek help but because there was not cellular reception in the area, they could not call an ambulance.
My intuition told me to get out of the water to get help. As I got to the other side I saw a couple and I told the man that we needed help. He immediately swam where my bother was. Then I ran to the road and the second car I saw stopped. A lady came out of the car and said, I am a nurse and I have a radio. This was another miracle. She and the man who was driving the car came from the nearby town and immediately called an ambulance. About half an hour later the ambulance was there and they took my brother to a nearby area where a helicopter landed and picked up my brother to take him to the hospital.
We found out later that he had hypothermia and his legs could not move because of the cold water. They took all kinds of tests and told the family that his lungs did not get any water. Three days later he left the hospital in excellent condition. Our family and myself are deeply grateful to God for the miracle of his life.
A few days later we went back to the river with my brother and to the town from where they dispatched the ambulance to thank everyone for their kindness and service. We met again the sheriff, the doctor and the nurse. They told us that they could not have a better reward for the work they do than to see someone they have rescued alive and well.
I think it is important to never take our life for grated. We are here today but we never know when it is going to be our turn. Some of the things we can do to maximize our time here on earth are:
- Appreciate life more and value every moment
- Be more compassionate, generous and kinder
- Forgive more
- Commit to being a better human being every day
- Laugh more
- Take time to do self-examination. Ask yourself
- Am I willing to live in harmony with life, with everyone and to be at peace with everything in all circumstances?
- Am I willing to change what I need to change to improve the quality of my life for the rest of the time I will be here on earth?
Let’s celebrate the miracle of life with profound gratitude!
Affirm: I am grateful for the miracle of life
Coaching for Self-Mastery
Written by Gloria Ramirez I recently went on a camping and hiking trip with a couple of friends to a beautiful area in California called The Sierra Buttes. The morning of our trip we packed our car with our camping gear and drove to our destination, just two hours from home. When we got there we decided to go hiking first and find our camping site later because we knew it was going to take us some time to climb about 1,800 feet to an elevation of about 9,000 feet.
The experience was amazing. We were laughing and enjoying each moment with a sense of wonder and a great expectation to see what awaited us once we got there. When got to the top of the mountain, there was an outlook area that is only accessed by a pretty sketchy set of staircases. My legs were shaking as I went up each stair. The experience was exhilarating and fun and I made up my mind to make it to the top. The reward was priceless. The view was spectacular.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could live each moment of our lives with a sense of positive expectation, wonder and joy? What prevents us from living this way consistently? Maybe past conditioning, fear, or doubt? The good news is that we can always overcome all those blocks and decide to live life fully every day.
We enjoyed our time at the top of the mountain while we had lunch and experienced nature in remarkable ways. We saw the beautiful vegetation, a brown rattlesnake and the cutest chipmunk.
On our way back we enjoyed the trail and the gorgeous views of the mountain and the lakes around. Once we were back in our car we headed toward our camping site but then we remembered that we wanted to get marshmallows for the campfire we were going to build later, so went to a store/restaurant nearby. When we arrived there we decided to have something to eat. Finally, a little bit after 5pm, we were ready to drive to the camping site, only to find out that it was full. We checked other sites nearby and there was not any space available. We realized that without knowing we had chosen to go camping on a long busy holiday weekend.
Without any hesitation from any of us, or feeling bad, we just accepted the circumstances and begun to head back home. We were laughing about our camping preparation (to enjoy a comfortable night) and how our day ended joyfully even though we did not camp as planned. We made plans for an afternoon in the near future to go to a nearby park to make our marshmallow smores. Each of us were at peace and actually laughing about the experience. We were not attached to the outcome but only to having fun that day and embracing each moment with joy.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could let go of our attachments to the outcome of our experiences and always make a commitment to have fun? What restricts us from doing it? Could it be the need to control, or fear of the unknown, or past experiences? The good news is that it is possible to train ourselves to embrace adventure, to have fun no matter what the circumstances are, to not take ourselves so seriously, and to enjoy each moment as it comes.
Affirmation: I embrace each moment with joy
Written by Gloria Ramirez
“Joy does not simply happen. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day” ~ Henry J. M. Nouwen
It is so true that we have to be conscious participants and consistently choose joy every day. Joy does not happen without us understanding that we have to make the decision moment to moment to embrace it. For us to be able to do this, it is important to be clear on the ways in which we block our joy, many times not even aware that we are doing it. We do it when we complain, blame others, judge, feel guilty, resent others, live in fear, do not express gratitude for our blessings or simply are not kind and compassionate.
As we decide to eliminate any barriers to love, to open our hearts to let go of behaviors or beliefs that block our joy, we are able to feel the difference and live more in our true center, which is joy. This is real success!
To help you to embrace more joy in your life, I invite you to consider doing this self introspection exercise.
- Which 3 habits are blocking me from joy?
- Select one of these 3 habits and ask yourself: What is keeping me repeating this behavior or having this thought?
- Which positive habit can I adapt to replace the negative habit?
- Which 3 things can I do to reinforce the positive habit?
- Which affirmation can I use to help me change this habit?
Choose a habit you want to shift: Complaining
New habit you want to adapt: The opposite of complaining is praising or embracing yourself and others.
3 things to do to reinforce new habit:
- Speak to praise, to edify
- Express gratitude (keeps you from negativity)
- Practice self acceptance and acceptance of others
Affirm: I embrace everyone and every situation with joy
Written by Gloria Ramirez
For many years I was convinced that I was at the mercy of external circumstances and therefore I did not feel free. I did not know that I had created my own prison through the power of my mind. I did not know that was the only one holding the key to free myself from fear, anger, doubt, resentment, guilt, insecurity and anxiety. These were very difficult years because I felt hopeless and I did not know that I had all the answers inside of me. I wasted too much energy and time complaining, judging, controlling, being fearful and angry, and playing victim. As a result, I not only affected my own life, but also affected the life of the people around me.
When the pain of living this way was overpowering, I made the decision to seek help. I worked with coaches, took seminars and read inspirational books. Little by little, my life begun to transform in amazing ways. I opened my mind and heart to my own liberation by understanding that the solutions to all the challenges in my life were inside and all I had to do is change my attitude. Someone once said “our mind is the source of liberation and bondage”
Have you ever felt trapped in a vicious circle without any hope of the despair ever ending? At that moment it feels that it is going to stay with us forever. The wonderful news is that there is a way out of the prison that we have created, most likely, unconsciously. We can liberate ourselves from the prison of our own thoughts by making the decision to choose differently moment to moment.
I invite you to examine your life today and be willing to:
- Be free from fear. Let go. Choose trusting
- Be free from criticism. Change the habit. Choose praising others and yourself
- Be free from resentment. Let go of whatever blocks your heart. Choose love
- Be free from worries. Be willing to live in the present. Choose peace
- Be free from disappointment. Be willing to not take anything personally. Choose acceptance
Liberation means letting go of the impurities of the mind. Liberation is a choice. Be free now!
Affirm: I choose to be free now