Written by Gloria Ramirez
Most of us are conditioned from early age to look outside ourselves for happiness. I spent many years of my life trying to control others so I would get what I wanted, so I would be happy. Only after so many years of ups and downs, I have come to realize that when I go inward to awaken the joy that is already within, I do not have to demand or impose on anyone to make me happy. I just have to go inward. Doing this has made a huge difference in the quality of my relationships. I shifted my behavior from feeling that I was a victim to taking full responsibility for how my relationships were showing up in my life. Basically I have learned not to expect people to behave one way or another, but instead, to accept them exactly as they are.
This has been one of the most transforming experiences of my life. I have been able to understand that when there is an issue that shows up in any of my relationships, it is not about the other person. It is always an invitation for me to go inward and ask myself, how can I shift this situation? The answers that I receive include acceptance, forgiveness, compassion, respect, setting up boundaries, and trusting, among many others.
I have come to realize that relationships are the biggest channels to share the love that resides within us. The more I focus on giving, on being loving, kind, compassionate and accepting of others and myself, the more I am really giving to myself and the happier I feel.
To master relationships here are a few ideas that you can consider:
- Go inward. Instead of taking things personally, blaming others, or playing victim, ask yourself, what is one aspect of me that I can change?
- Awaken the happiness that resides in you. Empower yourself by realizing that within yourself you have the power to bring joy and peace into your life.
- Share with others the true nature of your soul: Love. Demonstrate it through joy, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, generosity, support and gratitude.
- Accept others as they are. Be willing to let go of the temptation to judge and instead look for the good in others.
- Live in the moment. Enjoy each moment as if it was the last moment of your life. Smile often!
Affirm: I master my relationships through the power of love