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“Three things are important in human life: the first is to be kind, the second is to be kind, and the third is to be kind.” ~ Henry James
This quote reminds us that kindness is one of the most essential qualities for living a successful and fulfilling life. When we stop to examine why we don’t always act kindly, several reasons may surface. Sometimes we move through life on autopilot, acting out of habit without pausing to reflect. We may be influenced by the behavior of family members or the people around us, simply following the crowd. Many of our patterns were learned in childhood and continue to shape how we respond today.
Peer pressure can also lead us to seek approval or try to fit in, even when it conflicts with our values. At times, we may lack the motivation to look inward and do the work required to change behaviors that no longer serve us. And occasionally, we feel a disconnect between who we want to be and how we show up in the moment.
The encouraging news is that every one of these reasons has a corresponding solution. Let us examine them individually.
- Out of habit: The solution is to stay present, observe ourselves, and in that very moment choose to shift into kind behavior. We can turn this around by affirming: “I live in the present and observe myself to ensure I am kind at all times.”
- External influence: How often do we act based on the behavior of family members or the people around us? The key is to remain true to our highest moral principles and choose actions that bring peace and happiness to ourselves and others.
- Learned behavior: The good news is that any behavior can be unlearned. We must be willing to practice healthy new habits that support our well-being and the well-being of others. This requires letting go of unhealthy childhood patterns and past mistakes, and courageously embracing a healthier, more empowered way of living.
- Peer pressure: In an effort to belong, we may at times give in to actions that compromise our integrity and the well-being of others. The solution is to strengthen our resolve, believe in ourselves, and trust our innate capacity to be wise and grounded. We must continually cultivate self-worth and self-assurance.
- Reluctance to look within: This may be one of the most important choices we face—the willingness to look within, even if we fear what we might find. In truth, introspection reveals what needs our attention so we can make meaningful changes and embody a consistent attitude of kindness.
- Congruency: In my coaching practice, I often see a mismatch between how someone believes they are behaving and what is actually occurring. For example, a person may say they treat everyone with respect and kindness, yet their actions tell a different story. We must commit to full integrity—being impeccable and walking our talk. If we say we treat others with kindness, then our thoughts, words, and actions must be in complete alignment.
Reflection
For each of us, living a successful life requires a genuine willingness to make meaningful changes and a sincere intention to act with kindness—in our actions, our speech, and our thoughts—at all times. We cannot afford to neglect this commitment, because every moment matters in our collective effort to elevate the consciousness of humanity. We cannot wait for someone else to take the lead. Each one of us carries the responsibility to create a better world, and we do so through the simple yet powerful choice to be kind to one another.
In Divine Friendship
Gloria Ramirez
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